Valuable Lessons Come From Simple Gestures
Melinda Rogers | Contributor
When I was younger about eleven or twelve years old, my father starting taking on dates. He would take off work early and go to my uncle’s house and get ready. He would show up with something special each time. He would bring various items, sometimes flowers, other times boxes of candy or Whitman’s Samplers, on the more special occasions he would bring stuffed animals.
We would go to nice Restaurants, not Shoney’s or Perkins restaurants of that natures but nice upscale places, he would do things important like pull out the chair and open doors for me.
We would also have a conversation, which I am sure he found boring but he always listened intently. These conversations were, of course, lacking in the maturity for a man his age to be engaged in, but he listened and even commented. They were conversations which, I am sure looking back, must have bored him but he did stay engaged and carried on like he went to school with me and knew these girls. We would talk about them as if he was in the same grade and witnessed my experiences with my peers firsthand. Of course, as I matured the conversation changed. We went from talking about Rachel and me fighting about her tearing my sketch book to more involved and much more important topic likes boys and sex. This opportunity gave my dad a comfortable avenue of communication to even discuss such as drugs, STDs, and the dangers of toxic people, other topics that would improve my adult life and help me grow into a more productive adult.
Additionally, the idea he has continued this tradition with his granddaughters leads me to hope that they will find the strength in themselves and not be treated badly by the people they date and give them the strength to be able to provide and live happily.
Now that I am married and have three kids of my own He still takes me out. Some things have changed but we still go out. Now it is less frequent because he tries to keep thing fair by rotating between me and his grandchildren. Now he has 3 girls that need the advice I received growing up. It is important for his grandchildren to have the experience as well I am no longer a little but I am sure he sees me as such because he is my father and I will always be his little girl. Additionally, the idea he has continued this tradition with his granddaughters leads me to hope that they will find the strength in themselves and not be treated badly by the people they date and give them the strength to be able to provide and live happily.
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